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Relationship Jumpstart Using Love Languages

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Understanding Love Languages

Are you having trouble in your relationship with your spouse or significant other? No one said relationships were easy. In fact, unhappiness in a relationship often has a simple root cause: we are speaking different love languages.

Dr. Gary Chapman, who has worked as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, identified what he calls the five love languages. These include Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

Find out more about this concept and gain a better understanding about what both you and your partner need from the relationship. Take the 5 Love Languages Quiz.

EMDR In The News

20/20 Report on EMDR

EMDR, which is an acronym for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, works well for trauma response. We’ve used it successfully here at Motivations Counseling with a number of our clients. There are numerous studies that point to the effectiveness of this unique therapy treatment.

For the skeptics, or anyone else simply looking for more information about EMDR, here is a 20/20 Report that was done a while back that covers it in detail.

What to do when you are having a panic attack

Stop and be safe

If you feel you are having a panic attack, stop what your are doing. If you are driving, then you should safely pull off the roadway. Otherwise, simply stay where you are and try to wait it out. Don’t rush to get help as this will only add to your anxiety.

Calm yourself

Once you are in a safe place, try taking some deep breaths and slow down your breathing. The goal is to calm yourself to prevent from having a full-blown attack.

Think positive thoughts

Rather than focusing on the attack, try to conjure up a peaceful image, perhaps some scenic place like a beach, lake, or even a waterfall. Reassure yourself that the feeling will pass and that you aren’t in any real danger. Look for other distractions to take your mind off of the attack, such as looking at the second hand on your watch or counting from one to one hundred in your mind.

Plan what to do before the next attack

Come up with a strategy for the next time this happens. Remember how you were able to calm yourself this time and envision doing those same activities or even think of other ways to train your mind to focus on positive, calming thoughts.

Put yourself first

Individual treatment is often termed as psychotherapy, and is meant to help people with their emotional issues, which can range in order of their severity or intensity. The main aim of this form of therapy is to change the quality of life by defining the path of life clearly, and bringing in more clarity. Whether it is the problem of repressed childhood that you are facing, or an emotional breakdown due to divorce, failure or loss of a loved one, a professional psychologist can help you revive your mental health through systematic counselling.

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Don’t be embarrassed to go to couples therapy

We define the treatment path in couples therapy after patiently listening and carefully understanding the problems couple is facing. Our practical and scientific approach, while balancing and weighing the emotions at stake, helps us bring in the much needed transparency and attachment among the partners. It definitively helps in doing the right thing, and taking the right decision, not only for the relationship, but personally as well.

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It is never to late to go to therapy

We define the goals and objectives of the counselling sessions in a very transparent manner to help clients overcome their problems quickly and effectively, and get the new lease of life they came looking for. We work with the client as per their schedule, to fix an appointment that is mutually agreeable. We help you embrace life, the way it is meant to be.

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